Monday, November 24, 2014

Dr Jekyl meet Mr Hyde meet Dr Jekyll

I had been working on a post describing KSD ("Kinda/Sorta Date") as a veritable Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.  I was initially intending that description as a good thing meaning he was a real beast in the bedroom.  What I posted about on the beach was just a warm up to what he offered in the bedroom.  The problem was that I found myself complaining about his ultra-timid behaviors outside of the bedroom.  I figured I was just being an ungrateful bitch.

The Dr. Jekyll side was sweet and polite; polite almost to the point of being annoying.  I realize I sound like an annoying bitch who wanted it all.  It was sweet that he was considerate to what I wanted, but sometimes - just like in the bedroom - stop thinking about what I want and tell me what you want . . . better yet, just do what you want.  I will tell you if there is a problem.  The Mr. Hyde side had done unspeakable things to me (not really, poetic license cause it just sounded better . . . smiling), so you'd think asking me to dinner would not be that much of a challenge.  And it was not like he actually asked when he did ask; it was more like he hinted.  Was I busy?  What was I doing tonight?  Did I have any big plans for the weekend?  Hinting until I eventually asked him.

Lately, I'm starting to think that his Dr. Jekyll is not nearly as sweet and polite as I had thought.  Not that long ago, he did his usual hinting around, only that time I did not make the first move myself.  I truly was not being passive-aggressive, I was tired and wanted to stay home that night,  I up-front told him that was what I had planned.  He called and texted me several times that night.  Okay, I didn't really think anything of it other than I was annoyed because I just wanted to watch a movie uninterrupted and crash early.    We went out the next night and all was good.  A few nights, I've noticed, that when I am slow to respond back to his texts, he blows my phone up until I do respond.  I told myself that I was being paranoid because I was in an abusive relationship.  I tried talking to him.  I thought it went pretty well.  I thought we made a connection.  It felt good.  This past Friday night, when he did his usual hinting around, I told him that it was "Girl's Night Out", but told him I'd love to see him Saturday night.  I was having a great night.  Not doing anything that would cause any jealousy - not that KSD and I were in an exclusive relationship yet.  We had this great talk, I thought we were in a good place together, so you can imagine my surprise to see him tucked away in the back of the bar.  I was shocked, but mostly I was pissed.  I texted him that I saw him and that I did not appreciate his checking up on me.  KSD rushed over to talk w me, falling all over himself to apologize.  I'm actually pretty forgiving, so it maybe would have gone well from there if he had just left when I said I didn't want to talk right then.  But he wouldn't - he wouldn't stop until I talked to him.  The bartender sensed I was having a problem, so she had Security come over (it pains me to admit that I know everyone down there, including the bouncers and all the bartenders).  He left at that point.  I pussed out the next day and just texted that I didn't feel well.  He started blowing up my phone again . . . until I finally texted (again, the coward's way out) that I thought it best we take some time apart. 



10 comments:

  1. Sounds like he has become obsessed. Be careful, please.

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    1. Thanks, I will. I don't understand it. Would not have thought he'd be like that.

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  2. Ewww this just creeps me out. What a jerk. Seriously?? that's stalkerish right there. I'm glad you managed to tell him in some way that it was time to take a break. I hope he manages to keep his distance. Damn girl, you've got some bad luck here.

    xoxo

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    1. I don't get it. I've tried to understand. He got so needy.

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  3. oh wow. That sends all kind of red flags up. I don't know this man and can not pretend to. However this sounds so familiar to things I have heard from other women about their x boyfriends or husbands. He is so sweet and nice. But very rough in the sack. But very jealous of my friends. Next thing you know he smacks her then says he is sorry didn't mean to, and that is how it began. The abuse and stalking afterwards. Did he say something along the lines of he was worried about you at the bar?

    My advice is to stay away. You can tell me to go fuck myself if you want to but that is what I think.

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    1. I would never say that to you. I've always appreciated your comments.

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  4. Wow, that is creepy, KSD should be left in the past.

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  5. OH SHIT. I'm bummed to hear that he's freaking out on you.

    Your comment, "I was shocked, but mostly I was pissed." tells me a lot (in a blogger/stalker kind of way. You didn't see it as sweet or protective, but intrusive and overbearing, and that shows where he stands in your eyes and should be a big red flag in my book.

    I hope he gets his act togther and learns that you are your own woman and that it's up to him to learn to trust you.

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    1. I'm thinking the ship sailed on our relationship, but I hope he learns for his own sake.

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