tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post8511979180427562599..comments2023-05-04T05:43:29.640-04:00Comments on rachel-xx: Momrachel-xxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12878589225548770591noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-64598531953414303602013-02-06T08:44:18.730-05:002013-02-06T08:44:18.730-05:00My wife had a similar relationship with her mom. ...My wife had a similar relationship with her mom. It has affected her greatly. When you grow up in that environment I think you are left with constantly trying to succeed by other's standards and have a hard time charting your own course. I would urge you to set your own course and define happiness on your terms. But also look back with fondness at the good times. My wife's mom was instrumental in urging her to excell at dance and piano things she treasures now and that she can pass onto our daughters.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing.Ryan Beaumonthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00852223091640759071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-59916477904992755232012-09-22T10:05:50.351-04:002012-09-22T10:05:50.351-04:00When my parents died, although I felt sad, especia...When my parents died, although I felt sad, especially with my mother's death, I wasn't traumatised. I think that's probably because we did not have a difficult relationship. It seemed quite normal. In my long life I have lost parents, siblings, a wife, three of my seven children and some friends, but I'm ok with it now, I realise death comes to us all.Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18156162412655551672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-4875398756565394952012-09-12T04:41:22.070-04:002012-09-12T04:41:22.070-04:00My mother passed away when I was 28. She had no hu...My mother passed away when I was 28. She had no husband and my sister and I were too young to really understand how to deal with everything. It took a year for things to settle with property and estate and taxes... (ok after 6 years the taxes still aren't sorted). When things did finally settle, after about a year and a half, that's when my emotions got fucked. I ended up in a therapist's office as well. I had the same doubts and complicated relationship with my mother. I've also written a post about her death, it's still in draft but maybe I should come out with it, force myself to confront it.<br /><br />I'm really really sorry you had to go through this, having another parent to look after must also be very difficult. I know that you have the inner strength to deal with it all, but I'm glad you have a therapist that you can talk too. It really does help. ((HUGS))Candehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01678003991987294180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-63078935989224165742012-09-10T20:46:24.281-04:002012-09-10T20:46:24.281-04:00Advizor: I have missed you too.
Tori: Thank you. ...Advizor: I have missed you too.<br /><br />Tori: Thank you. I appreciate you're telling me and wish you all the best w your mom.rachel-xxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12878589225548770591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-81419063184819726402012-09-10T18:22:37.163-04:002012-09-10T18:22:37.163-04:00So sorry to read about your mother. Mine is not we...So sorry to read about your mother. Mine is not well, and this brought out a lot of feelings I've only rarely allowed myself to mull over. Thank you, tho. I called her today, just to talk. <br /><br />~Tori.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07372431292216611288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5753616301008298440.post-52071423148778054372012-09-09T09:53:56.450-04:002012-09-09T09:53:56.450-04:00I am very sorry for your loss. Every relationship...I am very sorry for your loss. Every relationship has its doubts, the strains, the dichotomy of love and distance, but I hope, as time passes, the love wins out and that those are the memories you allow yourself to keep. Advizor54https://www.blogger.com/profile/02818587592229617693noreply@blogger.com